This is not just a rant.. It also serves to save you from having to learn this the hard way.
Let's say that a single girl with a decent job is seriously looking for a bf and has 5 guys in her dinner or party group that she just met. This girl does not have
tons of good enough options.. in fact almost all of her good enough current and future options are present in the group.
Guy #1 is a very rich, average looking smart, cool enough guy, looking for a serious relationship and living in the same city.
Guy #2 is a super safe, funny, average looking nerd who could do anything for her, would never cheat on her and is looking for a serious relationship and living in the same city.
Guy #3 is an awesome, unattainable guy with a girlfriend who just wants to flirt around and be friendly but wouldn't have sex with her or even ever meet her again.
Guy #4 is almost as cool as the tourist, and has a lot going for him. And is looking for a relationship and lives in the same city.. but he is slightly less attractive.
Guy #5 is a cool handsome tourist on vacation leaving tomorrow. Best option for a one night stand, apart from the guy with the GF.
Let's assume all of the guys are talking with her equally as much and touching her a little bit every now and then.
Who you think she's going to pick 95% of the time? She's going to pick the guy with the girlfriend. Until she finally realizes he has a GF and even then his presence
is likely to attract her enough for her to forget about the other guys. If she does change her attention once/if she hears about the GF, then she's going to pick the
tourist. Even though once she decides, she loses all the other guys as options.
This has pissed me off a few times.. Girls are really horrible at choosing guys.
But the rules of the game are what they are.. keep your ego out of it.. Just see if the girl is one you get instead of trying to get the girl.